The Obstacle is The Way
by Ryan Holiday
Everyday events, circumstances and irrational human behaviour can get under our skin. If we don't understand the importance of human behaviour and what drives them. We will continue to struggle, be overreactive or continue to take things personally. Through this book, many stoics of various backgrounds are discussed. How each practiced mental control and moved strategically. In a world where turmoils bring the worst out of many. These stoics have kept cool under pressure.
Each chapter is an examination of a historical figure to enlighten us about the times and the method each individual used to handle tough situations. We respect, honour and revere these individuals because of the toughest battles or situations they had overcome. How we respond to challenges is what shapes us. We are not the sum of the good times. We are the accumulations of our hardest battles and our good days. Both work to refine our character if we allow.
''The Obstacle in the path becomes the path. Never forget, within every obstacle is an opportunity to improve our condition.'' Therefore our problems become part of our story. Without those problems who and what we are cannot be tested or refined by life. In essence, each obstacle is there to strengthen our character and commitment to the chosen path or cause.
''Objective judgement, now at this very moment. Unselfish action, now at this moment. Willing acceptance - now at this moment - of all external events. That's all you need.'' - Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor and Stoic Philosopher. Marcus, in his time, was an emperor of one of the biggest empires at the time. He knew how to deal with people and the situations that came up as a result of human behaviour.
The book is divided into three parts. Part One: perception, Part two: action and Part three: will. We will examine each section and see what lessons we can take away from each part.
Many cycles globally are coming to an end. As the human race, we are shifting into a new paradigm. We have been allowed by life to live our best lives in this coming decade. Many cycles such as toxic relationships, dysfunction, misalignment with life and self are coming to an end. We have been cleansed and given a second chance. What we do as a result of being in the next ten years is totally up to us. Here are a few lessons we have learned as a collective from the past 19 years.
Take Complete Accountability for Your Life
It is very convenient to blame other people, the government and the aliens for our own decisions. We have to stand in our truth, our word and own our actions. The new decade is about complete personal accountability. True power and progress come from being honest with yourself. Owning your truth is your liberation from this moment.
Heal the Emotional Body
The past 19 years have been hectic for a lot of people. If this message resonates take the time to go to therapy and dive into self-care and heal your way into abundance, peace and inner stability. Our unhealed wounds will manifest in our relationships, friendships, family and into the world. We want our best self to be our representative. So take the time to heal and practise deep self-care.
Examine the People in Your Life
Who are the people in your life and what's their role? Not everyone is in your life to be a confidant. Different people have different needs and you appear different to those people based on their needs. You need to highlight and categorize people. Organization in this part of your life will be transformative and will help you stay focus and maximize your energy.
Trust Your Intuition
Honour that quiet still voice within. Honour your body when it is not feeling well in the company of people or situations. Your body knows without needing validation from external factors and people. Trust that your body has your back. Heal your fractured relationship with your intuition and you will never be fooled again.
Those are a few tips that we have learned from the past 19 years. This coming decade take the time to learn about yourself and elevate in your desired direction and achieve your desired outcomes. Trust in the now, trust in your self and all will be well.
Nyabuoy Gatbel is a South Sudanese Canadian currently living in Calgary, AB. She was born in Ethiopia in 1993 and moved to Canada as a refugee in 2002. She's currently a undergraduate student at the University of Calgary. Besides her studies she's a social entreprenuer focusing on the, ''Paarman Centre project,'' a fashion model, writer and author of the book, ''The Fire Within poetry in Thok Nath and English.''