Changing our bad habits, thoughts, and behaviours are often portrayed as a complicated task, but it is not. Because essentially, we need to know that our practices are feeding a need and a why internally. We don't do things by accident. Whether we are conscious of the situation or not, we provide for ourselves by quenching that situation that burns within. The methods that we use are the ones currently available due to our comprehension of the case. We cannot outdo our level of understanding and ability at the moment. We can only understand that ''when we know better we will do better,'' to paraphrase Dr. Maya Angelou's famous statement. Since our habits reflect and represent the choices available to us, how then can we go forward and make better choices leading to positive results?
Is it fair to punish yourself for not knowing any better? No one taught you any better, and you didn't have positive examples and options available to you at the time. Be glad you have the opportunity to correct yourself and see yourself as a student of life. As a student of life, be open to learning, changing, questioning and evolving each moment as you go. Life is about learning, relearning, unlearning and such. Life is not about perfection but authenticity. So have self-compassion and take it easy.
OPEN YOUR OPTIONS:
So most of us make bad decisions because of a lack of better options and choices at our disposal. I would suggest to read, connect with positive role models and continue to do more research. By talking to people who live differently than you, you can learn what other options are available and which ones to avoid. Through reading and research, you learn alternative realities you can't fathom; this gives you resources and spaces to tap in if you desire to create a different experience.
DESIGN & WRITE YOUR NEW REALITY:
Write down everything you wish to be and want to achieve. Design your blueprint from now until you leave this earth. This book of your life will serve as a reminder for all you desire and want. This will be programmed into your subconscious, and naturally, you will start to do things to usher these things into existence. Think and act as if you have already arrived. The only difference between yesterday and today is a choice. That's power.
Today, take the time to go to the store and get some empty notebooks and schedule quality time with yourself for your desired future. In your current state, write down everything you want to be, hope to achieve and who you wish to be. Practically write down your legacy as you envision it. Then set daily, weekly, monthly and annual goals to keep you on track of your vision. Because in one year, you will be grateful for honouring your commitments. Good luck.
Nyabuoy Gatbel is a South Sudanese Canadian currently living in Calgary, AB. She was born in Ethiopia in 1993 and moved to Canada as a refugee in 2002. She's currently a undergraduate student at the University of Calgary. Besides her studies she's a social entreprenuer focusing on the, ''Paarman Centre project,'' a fashion model, writer and author of the book, ''The Fire Within poetry in Thok Nath and English.''