Who celebrates you? Who's in your corner in this life?
Those are tough questions. Many people are surrounded by people that don't like or love them for several reasons. Most human relationships are formed out of need or necessity. This makes human relationships tricky. I would say human relationships are categorial and very intricate.
If you don't understand people's motives in your life or circle, you will continue to experience the same problems. The best ways to be surrounded by people who love and like you, leading to an authentic celebration, start with loving and liking yourself. Many people experience the toxicity and traumas in themselves in their friendships, romantic relationships and familial ties. Because our relationship is a perfect mirror of ourselves, what we don't heal will be reflected in our space, personally and publicly.
These are the tips to follow to create a positive experience with others,
A) Your inner world is reflected in your external experiences. When something repeats in your life, check yourself first before blaming others. You are the common denominator in all your experiences. As you heal, so will your circle.
B) Celebrate others! Yes, a celebration is a two-way street. Show people the love and support you would like to receive from a real place. You cant attract or experience beautiful people and experiences from a jealous heart.
C) You are everyone! Yes, you are connected to everyone on earth. No one is below or above you. Understand this, and you will approach humanity with compassion, understanding and patience.
Every experience, good or bad, leads back to us, with this in mind. We have to self examine at all times. Pointing fingers and blaming others for our adult decision is not fair. Decisions, whether made from a conscious state or unconscious state, lead to consequences.
Nyabuoy Gatbel is a South Sudanese Canadian currently living in Calgary, AB. She was born in Ethiopia in 1993 and moved to Canada as a refugee in 2002. She's currently a undergraduate student at the University of Calgary. Besides her studies she's a social entreprenuer focusing on the, ''Paarman Centre project,'' a fashion model, writer and author of the book, ''The Fire Within poetry in Thok Nath and English.''